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nekosensei) wrote2008-06-12 12:44 am
nekosensei) wrote2008-06-12 12:44 am
Skeletor Dances
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doomsey and I went with his family (his grandmother was in town) to our niece's dance recital. In a couple of the performances, there was this one girl who obviously had an eating disorder. I'm guessing that she was a Freshman or a Sophomore in high school, but it was hard to say for sure. It was heart-breaking because the poor girl was rail thin. I had a hard time focusing on the dance or what the rest of the performers on stage were doing because I kept staring at her. She looked so unhealthy that it was frightening. At one point, she stumbled a bit during her performance, and I felt my heart sink. The girl was nothing but skin and bones and she reminded me of a dancing skeleton. I have no idea if she's is going to survive or not if she doesn't get help.
Why do women and girls do this to themselves? Why? Seriously, I think more parents need to sit their daughters down and talk about self-image, what's a realistic weight, and what's not (Hollywood...I'm looking at you).
This might be entirely the wrong approach and not my business, but if I were her dance instructor, I would say something either to her, her parents, or both. Hell, I probably wouldn't let her dance unless she took some steps towards getting therapy and getting herself to a healthy weight.
What's wrong with our culture? Attractive women are supposed to have curves...not look like sick, emaciated waifs.
doomsey and I went with his family (his grandmother was in town) to our niece's dance recital. In a couple of the performances, there was this one girl who obviously had an eating disorder. I'm guessing that she was a Freshman or a Sophomore in high school, but it was hard to say for sure. It was heart-breaking because the poor girl was rail thin. I had a hard time focusing on the dance or what the rest of the performers on stage were doing because I kept staring at her. She looked so unhealthy that it was frightening. At one point, she stumbled a bit during her performance, and I felt my heart sink. The girl was nothing but skin and bones and she reminded me of a dancing skeleton. I have no idea if she's is going to survive or not if she doesn't get help. Why do women and girls do this to themselves? Why? Seriously, I think more parents need to sit their daughters down and talk about self-image, what's a realistic weight, and what's not (Hollywood...I'm looking at you).
This might be entirely the wrong approach and not my business, but if I were her dance instructor, I would say something either to her, her parents, or both. Hell, I probably wouldn't let her dance unless she took some steps towards getting therapy and getting herself to a healthy weight.
What's wrong with our culture? Attractive women are supposed to have curves...not look like sick, emaciated waifs.
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And then, how many parents are the problem?
I think you're absolutely right about the approach. Her instructor should say something, and act on her own if need be. When I was coaching baseball, I always felt an obligation to look out for my players' health. It was easier, since Nate's dad is an ER doc, I wouldn't have had far to send them for evaluation or help. Hell, I still look out for them... once my people, always my people.